We get to decide how to respond and act, by being deliberate about our choices.
Being deliberate and making up your mind on purpose, means that you have guiding principle(s) for how you live your life.
Emotionally intelligent leaders actively practice being deliberate about how they will react and respond. When they decide to do something, they don’t let distractions, setbacks, and noise get in the way-they focus on what matters, whether it is personal or professional.
There is something about cleaning out clutter. Some people are great at maintaining a clutter free life. I don’t know any of those people. I go through clutter free periods, but then the clutter builds again.
I always feel better after I’ve removed clutter. I have a habit of saving things, just in case-you never know if you will need another wooden spoon. Another spoon? No problem I’ll just put it in the drawer with the other unwanted spoons and items from around my home.
In the first post of this series, I talked about working in an uncivilized workplace and the impact this environment can have. In the second post, I shared research findings on this subject, to show why this is a matter that requires attention by senior decision makers.
Workplace incivility is costly to employees and employers. Organizations that have an uncivilized environment experience high turnover, more absenteeism, lower productivity, and higher levels of workplace harassment and lawsuits.
The impact: Building a case for a civilized workplace
In my last post, I described my experience in an uncivil work environment and the toll it took on me and the team. This series is largely about workplace incivility. However, incivility can happen at home, with family, friends, in the community, anywhere-the same issues and solutions apply.
In case you didn’t recognize the image, it is Mr. Rogers. Mr. Rogers created Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, a children’s television show that stopped airing in 2001 The show epitomized civility. His gift to the world was to teach us to be kind and civil and see the best in one another.
Both civility and incivility are contagious. We get to decide which direction we will take.
1: an instrument containing loose bits of colored material (such as glass or plastic) between two flat plates and two plane mirrors so placed those changes of position of the bits of material are reflected in an endless variety of patterns
2: something resembling a kaleidoscope: such as
a: a variegated changing pattern or scene a kaleidoscope of colors
b: a succession of changing phases or actions a kaleidoscope of changing fashions
When I was young, I looked inside a kaleidoscope and I remember how beautiful the patterns were when I turned it around. There was always something different to see.
It’s time to re-frame failure. To avoid the word, people have tried to soften it by calling it a setback, major disruption, mistake, error in judgment, etc. Use whatever word you like, it isn’t the word that is the problem, but how you interpret it, or personalize it. The stories below are examples of how famous people have turned failure into success.